"forgive and forget" is an expression meaning to completely absolve
someone of responsibility
for a wrongdoing
against you. The idea is that you have not only decided not to hold it against
them; you've decided to live as if
it had never happened. It's not really a recommendation
for behavior, as many such sayings
are. People who forgive
are seen as both extremely good-hearted
and somewhat gullible
One reason the expression is useful is because it permits a classification
system. For example, say we're at a party
and I throw up
into your favorite top hat
. You can:
neither forgive nor forget: Come to the next party and continuously guilt-trip
me about it
not forgive, but forget: Come to the next party and act strangely cold towards me, for no apparent reason
forgive but not forget: Come to the next party and continue to be my friend, but refrain from wearing hats around me.
forgive and forget: Come to the next party, engage in friendly conversation with me, and show off your new $2000 art object
hat made out of air sickness bags without fear or reservation.
I generall consider forgiving but not forgetting to be the wis
est and most compassionate
way to go.