Got into an argument recently. Big surprise, huge wow, I know. Such a likeable person, and with such a content, unruffled personality, it's shocking that anybody would find something to match words with me over, and despite my placid and appeasing attitude, the two of us had it out. But to be honest, I knew it was coming. And when it was over, I was glad that it happened.
Vocal, opinionated, and highly aware of granular nuances (that is to say, a nitpicker), he always had something to say. Of course this was balanced, in his mind, by the idea that you were allowed to do the same in response: he thought he could dish it out, since his thick skin could also take it. From here, it is now obvious that is not true, but maybe he still believes it of himself.
Three minutes of verbal disagreement (with varying levels of politeness) before he blocked me. Quick, like jiu-jitsu. Didn't even start to get mean to him. Dude knew me for two months, and decided that a little analysis and banter about how to play a computer game was over the line. Why not just play better? It's easy, if a bit boring, and would have gotten better results. But no, high effort strategies that fail outside higher skill brackets is the way he wants to play, and suggesting any alternative is an attack on the center of his character. I should have done something more polite, like splash vomit at his feet.
The relief I feel is from the fact that this fight wasn't something I wanted to start, or wanted to avoid, it was just an inevitable fact of our personalities. No false agreeability here, no feckless alter-ego who serves up piping hot compliance in order to receive the burden of this dude's friendship. Not exaggerated or spiteful either, just caught with the contraband of a countervailing opinion by an argumentative type who brooks no disagreement. He expected me to be someone I'm not, and I asked him, in a sense, also to be different than what he was. We both said, "not the other one, and here's why." There's satisfaction, maybe a little joy, in our mutual rejection.