I've heard about it, and I've tried to understand it. Why would anybody want to
fake an orgasm?
I can't figure it out. I've tried looking at it from different directions.
No matter how I try to see it, it DOES NOT MAKE SENSE! Let me give you some examples:
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If you're having sex with someone, either (s)he cares whether or not you have an orgasm, or not. If they don't care, why are you faking it? They don't care! If they do care, they are probably going to want you to have one, so you just dug your own grave. Stupid.
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You either don't want the person you're having sex with to be offended that you didn't come, or you don't care about their feelings. If you don't care, why fake? If you DO care about their feelings, you should 1) be close enough not to have to fake, and 2) let's face it, faking an orgasm is not really very considerate to anyone really. It's a lie. Simple as that. If you really care about someone, you don't shove a big fat lie in their face. It doesn't add up.
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You do it to end the sex because you've had enough, or if the other person is waiting for you. If the other person is waiting for you, (s)he is considerate. Again: stupid, stupid, stupid! If (s)he is considerate, a very short discussion will clear things up: (s)he comes and then makes sure you do too. By faking, you've given up on an orgasm. If you've had enough: either you're with someone who cares for you, in which case faking shouldn't be necessary; (s)he cares about you and is receptive to your needs, or (s)he doesn't care for you, in which case they really don't give a rat's ass whether you come or not.
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You're either in it for a relationship or for a one-night stand. If it's the one-night stand, why bother faking? So (s)he'll tell his/her friends how good you are in bed? You're good if you make him/her orgasm, not if you do. If it's for a long-term relationship, way to go! Great start to a relationship!
Sex is supposed to be
mutual enjoyment. It is about
closeness and
intimacy. Where does faking come in?