Here are some definitions put forward by the
Church as to what is or is not
sex.
Sexual intercourse, so pure sex, is exactly that,
male and
female genitalia doing what they were designed to do. This is the only type of "sex" per se. It should end with a male orgasm in the vagina. Any male
orgasm outside the
vagina is called Onanism and is a form of sodomy.
Sodomy is specifically male ejaculation in another orifice besides the vagina. Therefore, there are two types: oral sodomy and anal sodomy.
Onanism comes from the story of Onan (Genesis 38:9-10) , who, upon the death of his brother, had to, under Jewish law, have intercourse with his sister-in-law. He did not want to have a child with her so he "pulled out" spilling his "seed" all over the earth.
Oral sex and anal sex are classified under
foreplay or
sexual deviance. Oral sex is permitted as foreplay between a married man and woman, if performed with solemnity and not abused. By abused I mean not occuring regularly as to take away from the love of the union, and concentrating on the lust of the act. Anal sex is strongly frowned upon because of the uncleanliness of going from the anus to the vagina in order for the man to have his proper orgasm.
The Roman Catholic Church strongly wishes that only true sexual intercourse ever occur, however under Catholic Moral Theology, Oral Sex is permitted as it is not objectively deemed a sin. As for virginity, as male/female genital sex is the only "true" form of sex, a man's or woman's virginity is intact if they refrain from this, however; the state of their soul has been jeapordized and must be cleansed due to the immoral practice of oral sex outside of marriage.