The notion of
death in
marriage, of losing oneself amongst the
myriad of
parenthood problems,
financial difficulties or whatever, is a bit much. First, marriage is not a
contractual relationship but rather it is a
covenantal relationship. These are very different. Marriage is not a 50-50 deal. One does not only give 50% and expect to receive 50%. Rather, one should be giving 100% and expecting to receive from their spouse, 100%.
Marriage should be a life-long commitment and as such, one should be
mentally,
physically and
spiritually prepared before giving one's life, one's dreams, one's love to another person. In marriage one will change, hence the covenant rather than unchanging in a contract deal.
Children are a natural part of marriage, of two people bonding deeply through love, and producing offspring out of that love. To say that Wifehood=sacrifice is 100% correct. You are no longer one person but two people united as one. That means sharing. That means that a husband must also sacrifice.
And they do! Perhaps not all men do, but then neither do all women who are married. As for motherhood, of course that means sacrifice, just as your parents sacrificed for you. Our progeny need our guidance, our warmth and our love to get by until they have been sufficiently equipped with the necessary skills, hopefully acquired primarily from their parents, to do this all on their own.
Some women actually love this
SACRIFICE and live for it each and every day. Some men do too. If we stick with stereotypical parental roles, then the man would go to work each day trying to make enough money to support a wife, and children. Is this not a sacrifice? I think it is. Men sacrifice as husbands, as parents as employees, as employers, just as women do. This is
LIFE not
DEATH and no one needs to lie to keep the world from being scared about this truth. Some of us actually like it and wake-up excited each day to live it all over again.