To:mail@savagelove.net
Subject: Girlfriendporn fucked me up
Dan,
The woman I've been sleeping with for four years says I treat her like a pornstar. Okay, so I admit, maybe I do. She won't communicate exactly how she thinks I do, so I don't know how to fix it.
Well, there's your start. You don't have motivation to fix it outside of her. You just want to stick with this...this, white flag, empty surrender, until something better comes along.
Scratch that, Dan. The woman I'm with keep saying really annoying things. I'm not into foreplay, she says. I say it's not reciprocal. I put in all the effort and what does she do in return? Lays there like a dead fish!
Duh, because you keep on doing the same things. FOR FOUR YEARS. It's been a little over three since you told her you liked her -- you loved her back then. Sometimes her presence makes you writhe, now. She gets drunk, then you sit there and take her abuse. Three drinks and she's more than a match for you, mentally.
DEAR DAN,
The woman I've been fucking for four years doesn't understand how I can have body image problems. I'm five foot, ten inches and weighed 220lbs for the past ten years. I only recently dropped a few pounds. Never was that obese or morbidly so, but it was always fat. It doesn't matter what anyone says,
That's because you LET THEM say it. No spine. Never says
...It doesn't matter what anyone says, I've always felt fat. Forget all those other four letter words, people calling me every derogatory word in the book (and some non-derogatory ones used as pejoratives), the worst has always been fat. I've got huge self-esteem issues, despite being physically capable of practically everything I want to do. Hell, a few months ago, I got on a bike and rode a hundred miles with a much thinner friend -- HE wound up in massive pain the next day, whereas I could've done it again! I don't feel like women pay attention to me,
There you are, you worm. Weasel. Rodent. You feel entitled to attention. Oh, just because you're physically able, you feel like
like no one would ever
PITY PARTY. Everyone come look at the chauvinist pig!
really want to do anything with me. Talk, fuck, play cribbage or drink beer. Dan, I don't get this. I don't get me.
You sound like a fucking patriachal asshole. Just like your father. Oh, there we go, hit a nerve, did we? Always did have to be the black sheep. Feeling entitled to attention means you deserve it even less. Entitlement. Feh, you claim to be a progressive, but in the end you're every white male asshole who doesn't want change. Yeah, you heard me. Die in a fire. Let me run the show.
Who says you're not the prick, between the two of us? All you do is sit there and berate me. What do you have to offer?
No more than you, but at least I don't have that misconception.
Right, then. Now, shall we sleep?