What I remember is this:
When it was cold
she used to wear her older brother's coat
it was a heavy brown work coat with grease on the sleeves
two sizes too big, but lined and warm enough she could sleep in it
which she did, usually in my car,
leaning against the door of the front seat
my hoodie as a pillow, her soft hair barely showing;
tips of her fingers clutching the sleeves
That is what I remember
and No, I don't think anyone has been through it all