for the longest time I would refuse
to wear my hair in a ponytail
it would make me look too much
like my brother
but now I wear my hair up when it's necessary
it doesn't bother me anymore

and to this day I will not
wear glasses unless I am alone
it makes me look like my mother
but she too will die someday
perhaps before I, and I wonder if
it will still bother me to wear them in public then