I'm tired of being told that it is. Just today, a friend sent me an New York Times article about the problems of dating in Silicon Valley. It chronicled the desperation of 3 women and 5 men, but was still called For Women in Silicon Valley, It Seems Like Strikeout.com

Cause it's all about finding your man, settling down, and having children, before that clock runs out, right?

Nope. My mommy clock is not ticking. I could decide to breed someday, but right now, I have to agree with my friend Jef. He says, I already have a hobby that takes up all my excess time and money -- computers!

And I hate the implication that as a woman, my SO should be my life. I'm certainly not his. I don't even want to be.

My relatives all say, so, he's the one, he's the one who's worth giving up your freedom for. But I reply, no, he's the one, he's the one I don't have to give up my freedom for.