A homophobe is anyone who has an irrational fear for homosexuality whether they are aware of this fear or not. Since prejudice of any form is irrational and a product of fear of difference anyone prejudiced against homosexuals is homophobic. Some homophobes maintain they are not homophobic because they don't mind homosexuality but they wish the would do it behind closed doors/not kiss in public/have no equality/have no freedom of speech/would just go away. Again, this is an irrational treatment of homosexuality based on prejudice: at least do the honorable thing and admit you are a homophobe.