They say
men can't pick up on
nonverbal communication. I don't think this is true, but if it is true for you you'd better start working on it. Here is why: Nonverbal communication is the
key to good
physical intimacy, especially if your
partner is a
woman. One of the most difficult things about
making love to a
woman (I would suppose) is that we
change all the time. During certain times of the
month, many women's
breasts are
hyper-sensitive. This makes light
caresses feel incredible, but makes
teeth-nibbling and such quite
unbearable.
Fatigue and so on also can change how a woman wants
to be touched at any given moment. So paying attention to the
sounds and
facial expressions of your
lover is extremely important; if your
nonverbal skills are lacking, ask questions for a while, but try to be learning while you do. While occasional queries are valuable, as mentioned in
geeks make good lovers, constantly asking "
Did that hurt?" is incredibly irritating.
Of course, this is true for
women too. They just don't have the
cultural excuse that men do.