My question is why NOT be honest in relationships? If you are looking for someone in life that loves you for who you are what is lying going to get you? And if your action causes a perceived negative reaction in them then you can evaluate your stance or action and decide if it is something that you want to continue to make you.

Nothing about myself is written in stone. I have changed so many views that I thought were explicitly me that my mind is probably unreliable in the long run. I want to stay in constant evolution. My Problem Solving class teacher Joe DeGrado (whom I miss dearly and love the same) once said that people were like clay and that the "older" you get the harder the clay is, till it gets to the point that it is rigid and unmoveable. He stated that the secret to youth is to constantly add water and stay soft and supple in your being.