Self-help, in our culture (that is, the culture of those noders who live in America in the twenty-first/twenty-second century), has been increasingly propagated by books, magazines, tv shows, and modern day
gurus. It is the practice of improving one's life through improving, not so much one's circumstances, as one's priorities, reactions, and demeanor. That is,
If improving your priorities...
Remember, what should be important to you is you. Allocate at least one hour every evening to a soothing bubble bath, with soft music, incense, and candles.
If improving your demeanor...
Don't blow up at your kids if they frustrate you. Just smile and think about that soothing bubble bath, with soft music, incense, and candles
If improving your reactions...
If anyone accuses you of running away from the real world, don't confront them. Confrontation is bad. Just get the hell out of there and go take a soothing bubble bath, with soft music, incense, and candles.