Hello, my name is Pancho, and I used to be a nice guy. I am currently "not-nice" and have been that way for 6 months now.
*Applause from room of 4-5 guys*
Yes, yes, its true. I'm no longer a "nice guy." I'm not a bad boy, but that's fine just so long as I'm not a nice guy, cause "nice guys" are losers anyways. Now, I commit my decision (and thoughts) to (electronic) paper for posterity.
I once thought it was totally uncool that chicks never picked up on the nice guy. Then I realized that the "nice guy" was really just a cover for "guy-who-tries-to-get-in-your-pants-without-being-a-jerk," which is the polar opposite of the typical "guy-who-tries-to-get-in-your-pants-while-being-a-jerk."
I applaud the second guy, I really do. I would never do it, but you still kind of gotta give it to him. You know why? Because he has the balls to go after what he wants. Heck, he gets what he wants while treating a girl like crap! Of course, I don't condone shacking up or hooking up, knocking boots, or whatever you might want to call it, but you know what? At least you know what that guys gonna do when you turn your back on him. The nice guy would like to pretend that you will turn your back on him in complete trust, but, as many chicks have observed, the nice guy is just a front for a guy who wants to attract a girl out of sheer force of pity. Yes, nice guy, I said it. You want to get laid out of pity. Game's up, shows over. Take your ball and leave, go hang out over there in the corner along with my lonely True Love buddy. You guys would go great together, I'm sure of it.
Yes, yes, I too was once a victim of the nice guy mentality, but it was out of ignorance. Yeah, verily, I saw the Light, I have been redeemed! I once was lost, but now am found! I once thought that filling myself with woe and wallowing in self-pity and self-flagellation would surely earn me a girlfriend, but alas, it was never so.
The main problem here is that having a relationship based on pity, be it a "friend" or a rebound girlfriend, is just depressing. You will never have the satisfaction of knowing that you "earned" your girlfriend, and most likely, she will let you know. It will start something like this
(Lying in bed, post-coitus)She: You know, I've been thinking, maybe we should see other people.
Translation: Okay, I'm ready to get back in shape and get a real boyfriend again.
He: What? Why ruin the relationship we have?
Translation: What? Why ruin the relationship we have for me?
She: It's not you, it's me, I just feel we need to move on, you know?
Translation: I'm done being sad, I'm ready to move on to a happy relationship again, you know?
He: Dammit, this always happens, why do the women I love ALWAYS BREAK MY HEART!
Translation: Dammit, this always happens, why do the women I love ALWAYS BREAK MY HEART!
(Girlfriend's phone rings/alerts/receives text msg from new/improved boyfriend)
She: Oops, I gotta go.
Now, I'm not saying, of course, that being "nice" is a bad thing, but I am saying that you have to grow some balls (this is more of a man issue than a woman issue really ladies, though I hope you get my point). More to the point, you must be a man before you can call yourself a nice guy. Don't be the latter of the three kinds of nice guys. To be quite honest, women can't get invested in these kinds of relationships. You, as the guy, need to wake up and realize that letting the girl know exactly what you want out of this relationship puts her on notice not to mess around with you, or for you nice guys, your heart *eye flutter*. Besides, you don't deserve a rebound girlfriend, that is just tacky dude. Play in your own league! Don't play for the minor leagues just because you think it'll be easier. It might, but that's no excuse, you're setting yourself up for failure and disappointment, my friend, because those relationships will never last...