What was said:
- Her: hey so last night you said that you wanted to talk to me, was that just a drunken thing or do you still need to talk to me?
- Me: I dunno, I'm just confused as to where we stand in our relationship
- Her: i think just friends
- Me: ok, I'm completely fine with that
- Me: it's just that things get fucked up when we drink, and I'm not sure how we should handle those type of situations
- Her: i think we should just try to be friends in those situations too
- Me: ok
- Her: is that ok?
- Me: yeah
- Her: ok
- Me: I'm sorry again for last night, things got fucked up
- Her: yeah its ok, i wasn't even mad at anything you did, it was just that last phone call
- Me: the whole thing really got to me, but it's just the state of mind that I was in
- Her: yeah
What should have been said:
- Her: hey so last night you said that you wanted to talk to me, was that just a drunken thing or do you still need to talk to me?
- Me: No we really need to sit down and talk about things, like where do we stand in this relationship?
- Her: i think just friends
- Me: even after all the great times we've had? You take one fucked up weekend and interpret it as destroying our relationship? And I just know that the next time you get trashed you're gonna come back again and make things even more awkward than they already are.
- Her: i think we should just try to be friends in those situations too, is that ok?
- Me: you're manipulating me, and I'm taking it because I'm a sucker. You say that we should be friends and then you go and drink and end up wanting something more and you get me to think that that's really what you want, but then you go and do this all over again. I'm sorry again for last night, things got fucked up, but it's not like I'm not trying to make things better, you just refuse to listen to me. Every time we say we're going to talk I just back down and let you win and end up paying dearly in the long run, and that's what's bothering me. Things need to change.
Sorry to make this such an emotional node, I don't normally do this sort of thing, but I'm really depressed right now and had to get this out there. Drinking really fucks things up, which makes me want to quit altogether