Me too. Sometimes I even
fantasize about rape. You don't? Liars.
Obviously I don't
hate myself, but those women do have a point, even if they lack a sense of
realpolitik in how they present it. First of all, let's face it-- we do have a more physical and even
coercive perspective on sex than women do. If we don't realize it, it's because we're totally immersed in it and have no
external point of reference. Almost all
rape is committed by men, therefore yes,
technically we are
potential rapists. No man is above it, and it's
dangerous when we start thinking we are.
Now, on the subject of the anger that you found yourself suddenly exposed to. I can't imagine what it must feel like to be raped, but I'm sure it would fuck me up for life. It hurts when you fancy yourself a '
sensitive guy' and your nose gets rubbed in some mess you, or some other man, or men in general, have made. Still, as a relatively less-
scarred individual you at least have the
ability (and perhaps
responsibility) to detach yourself. To not take it personally. Because it isn't personal. It's
raw,
blind, pain lashing out at
everything. It has to have an
outlet. One of the best things we the unscarred can do for the world is to absorb this
venom and
neutralize it.
Everywhere I go, I see things run by men.
Competent men,
wise men,
kind men, men who sincerely do believe in equality, but don't even notice that they're in a
male-dominated space. A
testosterone Matrix. That's why I try to put my ego aside and not
begrudge the protestors whatever miserable little
scrap of
campus they've symbolically claimed for the night.
Everyone needs their space.
PS: Ironic little piece of trivia-- apparently
Katherine McKinnon is
married. To a man. Does anybody know how she reconciles that with her ideas about
heterosexuality being equivalent to rape?