This is getting ridiculous
. It seems that people are avoid
ing dealing with their emotions
more and more by use of e-mail.
Of course, e-mail
resolves all of the issues
that we face when we've planned out an important conversation in our head, and some outside force causes it to go wrong. Of course we can say exactly what we mean to say, and not have to worry
that a ringing phone or roommate walking by will ruin the message
the recipient receives. Of course e-mail allows the perfect, well thought-out wording to be passed on without flaw ... but leaves out the most important part
-- the emotion
What the hell am I talking about?
This morning I received an e-mail from a very good friend
telling me that her roommate was killed
the night before. I still don't know the logistics of this -- car accident
? I don't know. She could have called me at home or at work, but instead, she took the easiest route
of writing me an e-mail. I'm sure she is very emotional right now and knows that she would break-down
when she heard my voice
... but still. This was a completely inappropriate
use of e-mail.
On a lighter, but still serious
, side ...
I know of many people who are using e-mail to ask others out on dates, I know of one woman who broke up with her long-term boyfriend
via e-mail, I know of another woman who used e-mail to tell my friend that "she needed more space" in their relationship
In this age where we rely
so heavily on electronic communication
, there are certain subjects that should really be left for face to face
conversations, or at the very least, over the phone when this is not possible.
How can you ask someone out and be sure that they understand that it is a date and not just a platonic
thing? In person, the other would be able to see the little creases around your eyes
that mean you are trying not to smile
too much, would be able to hear the nervous inflections in your voice
How can you end a relationship this way, either? It seems so cheating
of you. You've been in this relationship for how long? and now, you sneak out, use a messenger
, avoid showing your emotions at all costs
And then there's just plain, damn inappropriate, like the message I received today. I understand that this was easier for her, but she did not realize how much it affected
me. It brings up a million questions
that I can't have answered immediately, it makes me panic
, makes the air slam in all around me.
No, e-mail is not for everything. It is a wonderful tool
, but it still just can't replace human interaction