I would say having been through it all varies
depending on life circumstances
beyond our control, despite the need to feel
in control.
We, who dare to dream or continue to commit
to past promises or a moral compass
cannot even change the waxing or waning of
the moon above us, ever present;
Nor which way the wind blows or when
loved ones slip away, slip away
In sunshine or into the shadowy place
of sleep, where peace and confusion
collide in nightmares and whispers.
Ask me again in three years
whether checking if someone has
been through it all is really
the correct question.