Trina's writeup should be taken as
gospel, with one small amendment ....
There IS one important rule:
Do NOT make love to "a victim of sexual assault"
Make love to a person.
An individual who had something happen to them. That something is NOT who they are.
Dear Trina and y'all others reading,
I'd hope no-one would be offended by Trina's wonderfully detailed and positive writeup. But even the best of noders sometimes misses important points ;o)