I am glad your "then-
fiancee" is your "now-
wife".
My now-wife and I discussed
fantasies involving other people recently (apropos of my getting caught looking at
pr0n,
embarassingly). We came to the conclusion that it wasn't a good idea at the moment, but we would consider it later. I can imagine us saying that to each other until we are
64 years old. A couple of
swinging septagenarians we might be...
I imagine lecturing my son/daughter to the effect of: think of
sex like
chainsaws--fun, powerful, no built-in
right vs wrong, but still dangerous. Perhaps it wouldn't be as much fun if it didn't matter enough to make it dangerous. (That being said, I wish I could live a little more dangerously sometimes...)
On a side note, I have managed to change my fantasies to fit closer to my wife's. I will spare you the details, but it suits us...