Being a
virgin I am speaking only from what I've
thought about non-stop since I began puberty.
I have talked to many people about
sex. I hear the same things so many times it's funny. Here are two fine examples:
Many woman say, "Just wait and
let it happen and it will happen when you least expect it." Now this is referring to both
love and
sex, and so many women say that. Many females that lose they're virginity seem
extremely let down by that fact.
Basically like they've lost something they can never get back. This is understandable, after losing your virginity, as a female you have some extremely physical things changed. Plus it wasn't
necessarily pleasurable and it was almost certainly
painful. I can
understand where women come from too, because they don't need to try to have sex, it just happens, and if you didn't force it, it would
probably just happen.
Men say, "Hey man, it's really easy, just go for it, it's easy to make happen." I see
male sluts going around getting
laid every couple days, they're groinal
regions a virtual
experiment in progress. I see them using
women and being
assholes and getting
exactly what they want when they want it. Now that
previous quote was what a male slut type guy would say.
For guys, usually, losing your virginity is a lot LESS of an impact than it is for women. If it wasn't great, so what? As long as you didn't contract something, it was just a bad experience. For woman after they're first, if it was terrible, they feel let down, they hurt, they bleed. Obviously for women even after a great first time they hurt and they bleed, but perhaps it was worth it. Which would make all the
difference in the world.
Sure I wouldn't mind
sex, but I'm not going to go out and do what all those assholes do to get it, I'm going to be myself. Of coarse somewhere in the mix you have got to have some
balls and take
initiative. In our society it is the man that traditionally makes the first move. I am getting better at dealing with women and I'm sure a serious
relationship is right around the corner. I suppose I'm simply writing this to get some thoughts out that have been bouncing around in my head. Anyone that would like to add to this conversation please do so, I'm interested in everyone’s
opinions on this subject.
Thank you for your time.